Recently, on a day out with some friends I met a lovely man who's a similar age to me. We got talking and it felt like I'd known him for years, and I found out that he's in a very similar situation to me.
We ended up confiding in each other about how lonely we both felt and moaned about our partners. We swapped contact details and we've been texting each other a lot, and the messages have become quite flirtatious and sexy.
He's suggested we meet in secret for sex - which we both miss in our marriages - and carry on as normal with our partners. Ten years ago, when I was newly married, I'd never have thought I could ever have an affair, but now I'm seriously considering it, as long as I could be sure no one would find out.
Although I'm unhappy in my marriage right now, I don't feel it's the right time to end it because my kids are still only five and eight. Please help.
Coleen says
WELL, you can't be sure you won't get found out and the chances are you will. Are you hoping to get away with it until your youngest is 18? If you don't want to end your marriage because of the affect a separation will have on your kids, my advice would be to work at the marriage and don't start an affair with this guy.
You have to talk to your husband and tell him you're unhappy, and you need to discuss what, if anything, you can do to make things better.
If you don't think it's possible, then my advice would be to end it ...
We ended up confiding in each other about how lonely we both felt and moaned about our partners. We swapped contact details and we've been texting each other a lot, and the messages have become quite flirtatious and sexy.
He's suggested we meet in secret for sex - which we both miss in our marriages - and carry on as normal with our partners. Ten years ago, when I was newly married, I'd never have thought I could ever have an affair, but now I'm seriously considering it, as long as I could be sure no one would find out.
Although I'm unhappy in my marriage right now, I don't feel it's the right time to end it because my kids are still only five and eight. Please help.
Coleen says
WELL, you can't be sure you won't get found out and the chances are you will. Are you hoping to get away with it until your youngest is 18? If you don't want to end your marriage because of the affect a separation will have on your kids, my advice would be to work at the marriage and don't start an affair with this guy.
You have to talk to your husband and tell him you're unhappy, and you need to discuss what, if anything, you can do to make things better.
If you don't think it's possible, then my advice would be to end it ...
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